Meet Mark, a 43-year-old, college educated businessman who married 10 years ago for love. He lives in an affluent neighborhood with his wife and two children, drives what he wants and travels when he wants. He is financially more successful than his father and is a true partner with his wife in raising their children. Society crowns Mark a success.

Despite external achievement, Mark is continually stressed. To manage, he sedates using food, alcohol, porn and at times, medication. These are some of the questions the Marks of the world are asking:

• Why don’t I feel more fulfilled?

• I’m meeting my financial obligations. Why do I feel my

greatest value to my family is that of an ATM?

• How do I get my energy level back?

• Does my role as husband and father require my interests

always taking a backseat?

• Why is my wife depressed? I’m hands-on with the kids.

What more do I need to give? How much more can I give?

• My wife and I used to be fun and now, obligatory co-parenting?

We struggle to connect; is it fixable?

• How could I be closer to and more influential with my

children?

• When I die, how will my life be measured?

This book is written for achievers, the Marks of the world; businessmen, husbands and fathers, who with the right direction, answer the call to lead, unlocking the door to a phenomenal life. Where are you right now?

SELF: Are you so immersed in work and family you have little time for yourself? Are you numb or stuck? Have you forgotten your interests, wants, and friendships?

HEALTH: Have you neglected your physical health, telling yourself you’ll make it a priority when work obligations slow down and you find more time?

INNER PEACE: How high is your stress level? Are you prone to reacting to what is happening around you?

FAMILY/MARRIAGE: Has your marriage gone stale, your sex life more about porn or an affair to meet your needs? Are your children more interested in their electronic tablets than you? Do you find it challenging to connect, spending more time as a disciplinarian rather than the father you envisioned; one to have fun with and learn from?

TRADE: Are you fulfilled? Have you plateaued in your career, asking yourself, “is this all there is?” Have you achieved your life’s greatest work?

Regardless of your challenges, likely, achievement is not one. I’m betting you know how to set and achieve goals. You are successful because you consistently hit your targets. The problem is not one of ability, but lies instead, in how you’re keeping score.

Ask any accomplished man how he measures himself and almost all answers involve career success and wealth—societal benchmarks. Yet, why do so many accomplished men remain unfulfilled? We get stuck because the targets we use to gauge winning, lack a more comprehensive vision. We’re not broken; we simply need a SHIFT in our understanding of what constitutes success.

My premise is a simple one, the complete man is multidimensional. SHIFT represents the five core areas; Self, Health, Inner Peace, Family, Trade (work), which collectively define success. True success is synonymous with accomplishment across these five areas.

Within the pages of Visibility is an opportunity to assess your life within these core areas, challenging you to ask the right questions, offering a new perspective and putting you on the path to fulfillment.

Work is typically the first and often only benchmark men use to gauge success. Societal pressure scores us here. High achievers are externally successful but society’s scoreboard for achievement falls short of the mark. For those who have realized some financial success, we are too often left wanting more.

We’re prone to focusing on specific goals—making money, for example, and we set targets and judge ourselves accordingly. But we do so at the expense of our self, health (diet, physical), inner peace, and family (children, marriage). True success requires redefining our targets. This book is a guide to finding success beyond external achievements. Start by:

1. Examining life in the context of SHIFT.

2. Pinpointing gaps: where you are now and where you need to be.

3. Developing your life vision.

4. Taking actionable steps to claim it.

Those completing the program have become self-aware, gathered wisdom, and are ready to serve their world, without surrendering their masculinity. Operating with character and confidence, they’re enjoying the best life. For some, change is dramatic—new careers, business ventures, marriages revived, withstanding the pain of infidelity and even separation. For others, it amounts to a much needed check-up. And for all, it’s about uncovering your purpose with your life vision taking center stage.

This journey is less about mastery, reaching a point where we’ve arrived, experience Nirvana and pronounce ourselves complete. Instead, think of it as starting down an enlightened path, setting clear targets, monitoring progress, while reclaiming what’s most important to you. Transitions are a part of life. Whether or not we evolve is up to us. Plenty of men are left stuck, failing to see the opportunities in front of them. For high performing men like you, remaining stuck is not an option. Forging ahead is what you do.

My intent is to supply you with the proper tools, preparing you for which actions to take when you need them most. Armed with this new knowledge-set, I’m confident you too, will be successful.

This is a wake-up call. Your new life is here for the taking and is far superior to what you’re struggling with now. To claim it entails introspection, training and honesty. If you’re willing to do the work, you have the potential to become so much more. Think of it as graduating from a life in which you are getting by, to one in which you are in full control, getting the results you want. Taking the path of least resistance won’t work, nor will living a soft life of eternal comfort. This journey is not an easy one, but the work required pales in comparison to the emptiness you will feel by not claiming the life you’re destined to live.

What to Expect:

My goal is for you to master in months, what took me years. It’s about you getting meaningful results, crucial to winning on key fronts. This book is divided into core areas collectively defining today’s successful, 21st Century man.

1. Self. Ignite the adventure, change your story, find your spirituality, eliminate apathy, revamp your decision-making, join the brotherhood and overhaul your brand.

2. Health. Eliminate life-threatening foods, alter your understanding of a workout, increase energy, live longer and earn your rest.

3. Inner Peace. Eliminate self-deception, end anger, stop sedating, gain influence and take-back control.

4. Family/Marriage. Give your children the best childhood possible. Lead at home, reduce role confusion, learn to forgive, affair-proof your marriage, reinvigorate your sex life and enjoy ego-free decision-making.

5. Trade (work). Our identities are inextricably linked to what we do. I offer a new perspective—how to make more, while working less. Doing what counts, managing time, delegating, and reflecting.

Life has evolved and it’s time for us to evolve along with it. Get ready to elevate your game; understanding how to master these core areas will enhance your quality of life. It’s all within your control.

Change begins with you. After years of pointing the finger at everything and everyone in my life who needed to change, I finally accepted the only person I could change is myself. The questions then becomes, how to process, implement, and deliver results.

Most of us men missed out on the self-help teachings the women in our lives embraced some time ago. This was by choice. We thought we could figure it out on our own. I ask you, what in your life works well long-term with this approach? Is winging it really, an effective strategy? The way forward for high achieving men differs from what works for women and our advancement is not at their expense but rather, for a collective benefit.

Take the assessment. Let’s examine where you are, within these five core areas. Not where you want to be but where you are today. Complete the exercises with brutal honesty.

Go to StewartRoberts.com/assessment. It arms you with insight regarding your current trajectory and your likelihood of experiencing challenges and crisis based on your performance. It takes only a few minutes to complete. See how your scores correlate to long-term success. Your performance will be scored across the following categories.

Self: Will you reflect later on as someone who lived your best life? Or will you be confronted with a long list of intended pursuits without time to fulfill them?

Health: What’s your energy level like? Does it allow you to show up in all areas of your life, as a husband, parent and for yourself? Given your current habits, are you likely to make it to 70? How about 80?

Inner Peace: Are you pleased with how you see yourself and how others view you? Are you aware of and influencing what’s within your control? Do you understand your triggers and have ways to defuse when they are pulled? To what extent do you operate with a high degree of emotional intelligence? Do expectations replace gratitude?

Family/Marriage: How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? What would your wife’s ranking be? If you continue down the path your marriage is on, where will you end up? Will your marriage survive or are you likely to end up divorced? If you were to die unexpectedly within the next year, what memories would your children carry with them for the rest of their life?

Trade: Does your job define your purpose? Are you on the path to achieving your life’s greatest work? Take the test for free once. After that, the fee is $85.

Share your results with friends and compete for mastery across core areas. After completing the assessment, return to the book for answers on how to improve your score, establishing a new, more relevant benchmark for success.

Congratulations! This is the start of a new chapter in your life. It is one piece in understanding a larger movement taking place within the brotherhood, composed of men winning at life.

Your path to fulfillment begins now.