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Tale of Two Tims

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A Tale of Two Tims: Seelig weaves together the charm of Maupin, the humor of Shores, and the political activism of Jones in a moving memoir.

His memoir offers readers a front row seat to Seelig's many lives: Younger son of the prominent Texas Baptist Seelig family, a musician abroad, husband to first Vicki and later to "Don England, best ex-husband a man could ever have," father of Corianne and Judson, leader of the Turtle Creek Chorale, retired grandfather, and finally the artistic director of the San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus (SFGMC).


The story's underpinnings and consistent theme is of his life in the church and how he woke up to the damage the Baptist church has caused many. We see his visits with various Christian counselors and how they betrayed his trust. His own biological family members struggle in their own ways, but despite his fears, they do eventually come around in their own ways. Not only does he find his place in his biological family, but he also finds his "logical family" (to use a phrase he borrows from his friend Maupin).


Seelig isn't easy on himself. He's candid in his discussion of his first failed marriage, of how naive he was about the AIDS crisis in the beginning (even as the director of a gay chorus), and of how he feels he failed his children. However, the author never portrays himself as a victim. Instead, he presents those moments as seized opportunities, providing us with examples and life strategies we can use.


The book allows Seelig to minister in ways he never could have imagined as a young boy in Texas. Anyone who came out later in life can relate to the struggle he faced in ending his first marriage and coming out. Ultimately, his story is one of self-discovery and self-identification. Just as being a Seelig was not the entire key to his life and identity, neither was his job as a conductor--even though he continues to lead the artistic vision of the SFGMC. His story is one of constantly letting go of what doesn't work and embracing what does. And as Tim evolves, so does his family and the world around him. As he says near the end:


It's more than okay to love yourself.


With a voice as charming as Amistead Maupin's and as humorous as that of fellow Texan Del Shores, Seelig shares a life story as embedded in activism as that of Cleve Jones. The artful weaving of his life events with his beloved music and LGBTQIA+ milestones make this a must read.


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Angelic Rodgers lives in L.A. (Lower Arkansas) with her wife, two unruly cats, and two codependent dogs. She is currently working on her sixth novel. You can keep up with her at www.angelicrodgers.com and on social media (contact points are on her site).

About the author

Tim Seelig Tim Seelig is a conductor, singer, author and motivational speaker. He the Artistic Director of the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus. Dr. Seelig holds four degrees, including a Diploma from the Mozarteum in Salzburg, Austria. He has authored seven books and DVDs on choral technique. view profile

Published on June 27, 2020

Published by Nurturing Faith

80000 words

Genre: LGBTQ Non-Fiction

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