Why I Wrote This Book
Like most of us, I didn’t know SHIT about being a Mom when I started having babies.
I did what most of us do. I focused on keeping my kids safe, putting them first, and loving them as best as I could.
Also, like most of us, I grew up in dysfunction from unprocessed trauma.
Because my trauma was unacknowledged, I didn’t see how it filtered into my self identity, and therefore into my parenting.
I didn’t know how to put myself first.
When I looked in the mirror, I would fix my hair, maybe pluck a few strays, do a booger check, but I wouldn’t look into my own eyes.
Ever.
Because eye contact wasn’t about my face.
Eye contact was about my SOUL.
It was just too painful to look deeply into myself.
My HABIT was to actively AVOID eye contact with myself.
Maybe you do, too.
After being diagnosed with persistent depression, I began the inner work of healing, which meant acknowledging the personal and generational trauma (represented by Tears), identifying the triggers that became my coping mechanisms (Fears), and developing
healthier thought patterns and habits to support self nurturing and acceptance (Cheers), which became the title of my first book: Tears, Fears, and Cheers: Ripples From Childhood.
In other words, I learned to love myself.
But that is only part of the story.
Because, now I have grandchildren.
I’m seeing my place, and my responsibility in the world differently.
I’m understanding the power of self love and the importance of passing down THAT legacy, not just to MY grandkids, but to ALL kids.
The world could be in a much better place in just a few generations if we could ALL start with a solid foundation of self love.
I’m sharing what I’ve learned about self love with the intention of creating a more loving world.
How cool would THAT be?
I’m not a therapist, so I’m not suggesting that I can guide you through your trauma.
What I CAN help with is identifying and working through some of the self defeating habits that your fears have developed.
Your fears have kept you safe, but they have also kept you from feeling deeply happy and fulfilled.
Self love is not a dirty word. It is simply a process of self discovery. I invite you to join me on the journey.
*There will be some swearing*
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