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Overcome: Memoirs of a Suicide

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Heart-wrenching and inspiring tale of surviving unspeakable tragedy. Though the agony never goes away, triumph can find a seat alongside it.

When memoir writers limn tragic stories, you get the sense or perhaps hope that transforming thoughts into words is therapeutic and that it provides them some level of comfort. What is distinctive about Kimberly Tocco's memoir is that her story is a pursuit to help others and how, almost as a by-product, this helps her too.


The story begins with the normalcy of a typical family on the frenzied morning of a school day with a mom, Kimberly, trying to get the kids to eat breakfast before school as dad, Pete, needs to rush off to work. The children are Brian, 14, Jason, 13, and two-year-old twins, Joey and Petey. This was the morning Jason shot himself.


The stages-of-grief model are evident in her writing, but the author describes it in a unique way:

Denial and isolation come first, then anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. I felt them all, or sometimes just one, and certainly not in this order. Yet they do show up in these stages and circulate, coming back, fading in and out, until you deal with them and find a way to work through them.


Kimberly opens her wounds to share the aftermath. Some people disconnected because of the stigma of suicide. Close friends inhibited her from airing her feelings when she desperately needed to talk about Jason. At the same time, strangers probed for details. Hurtful rumors spread. Pete was a rock for the family, but at what expense? The children seemed resilient; however, that did not stop Kimberly from feeling guilty about her inability to fully function for them. Honoring Jason's memory was a recurring theme throughout the book, and in the end, that pursuit led to her survival, success and this book.


The author writes in a relatable style, and the book is well-edited. I read it quickly, feeling her pain and rooting for her as she began to jettison discouraging words, financial roadblocks, and the baggage filled with remnants of a painful personal history. When I finished the book, I felt like anything is possible and that you can create good from bad.


I recommend this book to people who have suffered a personal loss, want to understand how life is possible after that and need to know they are not alone.

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Gail has project management experience and specializes in writing for a corporate audience. Book reviews on Reedsy/Discovery include memoir, novels, mystery & crime, fiction, legal & medical thrillers, essays and short stories.

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About the author

Kimberly Tocco: Took the pain and grief of losing her 13 year old son to suicide and channeled it into a vehicle to change lives. "It is not what you go through, it is how you come through it." Kimberly "Tenacious T" Tocco view profile

Published on March 16, 2020

Published by Jones Media

20000 words

Contains mild explicit content ⚠️

Genre: Inspirational

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