"There’s a fine line between love and hate. Sometimes there’s no line at all.”
Nya Kumari tells all in her autobiography, a searing exposé of passionate sex and equally passionate abuse. A relationship that will have many wondering, “Why doesn’t she just leave him?” Anyone who has felt trapped in such a relationship can empathize and learn from Nya’s story. The wrong guy sweeps her off her feet. She thinks he is only single because his wife passed away. However, she soon learns there are plenty of other reasons. Unfortunately, she doesn’t learn them until after she has fallen head over heels. The sex is amazing. The abuse, even more so. See for yourself.
"There’s a fine line between love and hate. Sometimes there’s no line at all.”
Nya Kumari tells all in her autobiography, a searing exposé of passionate sex and equally passionate abuse. A relationship that will have many wondering, “Why doesn’t she just leave him?” Anyone who has felt trapped in such a relationship can empathize and learn from Nya’s story. The wrong guy sweeps her off her feet. She thinks he is only single because his wife passed away. However, she soon learns there are plenty of other reasons. Unfortunately, she doesn’t learn them until after she has fallen head over heels. The sex is amazing. The abuse, even more so. See for yourself.
LOOKING BACKWARD, LIVING FORWARD
You'll not often find me writing a five-star review for an explicit book filled with sex scenes and filthy language I disapprove of. However, this book has merit beyond the surface level of its text.
This book is for mature audiences only, and I don't mean just mature in age but mature as a grown woman or man in how they carry themselves and in the character of values they possess and represent.
This book does not answer the main question people tend to have when looking at an abusive situation from the outside: Why did this author stay for as long as she did? It's never an easy answer. It's layered, and there are many reasons for people's actions, including "crazy is as crazy does," one of the author's chapter titles within the pages of this book! You become like the company you keep, and bad company corrupts good character (I Corinthians 15:33).
To keep your wits about you when the devil is hoodwinking you, to keep your wits about you when you are being manipulated and gas-lighted, to keep your wits about you when you fall into a narcissist's trap, believing you are in love only to find out that the love is one-sided, does boil down to "The Games He Played." You lose yourself within abusive situations, and it's hard to find your way back to who you were before the abuse began and hard to regain the stable footing you lost when you started a relationship with the wrong man (or woman).
What this book got right was its readability, impeccable edits, and fast-paced, short chapters. It is also 100% worth reading for its last pages of knowledge shared alone! While the majority of the book is the author showcasing her life, giving us a voyeuristic look into the most unhealthy of relationships to pull back the curtain on what some domestic violence-riddled relationships look like, the end of this book will help lead women to leave as she did ultimately. As women of faith, we often feel we are to stay in committed relationships because of the vows we've taken. Still, God does not wish for his daughters or sons to live or remain in a place of festering sin that does nothing to honor Him, nor does He want us to remain in a situation where we are not cherished, protected, or cared for from a well of love that springs forth out of our beloved's heart.
This book reads like a "what not to do" and begs the reader to learn from this author's mistakes. In line with this, I want to make something clear. While people may believe in God and attend church regularly, something that might be missed or failed to be preached about is the relevance of the 10 Commandments, even in today's world. While it's true that Jesus' birth, death, and resurrection brought freedom from the law, the 10 Commandments themselves remain relevant. Do not commit adultery means we should not sleep with anyone outside of a marriage covenant. This means we are not to have sexual relations before marriage, nor to have sexual relations with anyone except our spouse within marriage. This is for a host of reasons, but the main point of how this relates to this particular book is that when fornicating (sinning through sex outside the confines of marriage), a relationship is automatically not godly or God-honoring. Sex outside marriage clouds a person's judgment; it emotionally and spiritually ties two people together. Mistakes compound mistakes until two people are so enmeshed and entangled that they fail to be able to see they weren't meant to be together in the first place. By not engaging in intercourse before marriage, you are more likely to marry an upstanding man or woman, one that's intent on honoring you and not harming you.
Read this book, intent on getting things right in your own life. Learning through the mistakes of others to not make the same ones and/or to get out from unhealthy, toxic relationships set upon your destruction, and learning to love yourself by reclaiming the pieces of you given up to try to please another. May you find the love made for you that represents glory, the love that stays far away from darkness and continues to push the darkness back with its light. In Jesus' Name, Amen.