Parenting & Families

The Love of a Father - Faith Principles of the Power of a Fathers Love

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No father or family should be without this book! As bright and promising as today's sunrise. An absolute winner!

Synopsis

This book is a celebration of a father’s love. Much is written about a mother’s love, but
little is ever said about a father’s love, except around Father’s Day. This insightful and
thought-provoking book illustrates how a father’s love is forgiving, everlasting,
unconditional...and often misunderstood.

Using the Christian faith to show that fathers love as deeply as mothers, just differently, the book is designed to create “ah-ha” moments for readers who have previously not identified what the love of a father looks like. Through the use of Biblical scriptures, references, and examples, it highlights fathers in the Bible who modeled the love of a father, and challenges men to openly express the love of a father as modeled in the Word of God. It sets a mood of openness and gives the reader permission to expand his thoughts beyond what he sees to what can be possible.

No father or family should be without this book.


The Love of a Father is a highly engaging read brimming with insights and examples of what a father’s love looks like and how it thinks, feels, believes, and acts. Based on faith principles and role models from the Old and New Testaments, the text is as eloquent and articulate as it is warm and winsome.


The author shows us how a father’s three main roles are: protector, provider, and priest. Early on, he talks about “absentee dads” and “pseudo providers.”


Sound of screeching brakes!


Gordon knows whereof he speaks. He writes that at one time he was a great provider but a lousy dad. So he left his job, relocated closer to his parents, and chose to model a father’s love based on faith principles outlined in the Bible. Those principles are further developed in a manner that’s enjoyable and engaging without being preachy. He also explains how God is the ultimate role model of a loving father, followed by “Pearls of Wisdom” which show how to live a father’s love “out loud.”


Authentic and incandescent, much of this book is told with a twinkle. Each chapter flows seamlessly into the next, with clear transitions. Plenty of research is cited. There are mountains of hope and encouragement here. It's also as honest as an Oklahoma Sooners touchdown.

 

Indeed, the book came out of the author’s personal experience “as a Christian man who had recently gone through a divorce and was seeking spiritual direction.” There aren’t a whole lot of books like that written by a Christian man, with a biblical worldview. That’s one reason this book is so refreshing and vibrant. (Note: Do not skip the Dedication or the Introduction. They matter. Ditto the Salute to My Father.)


Stop! Hammer time!


The book is offered “to all men, fathers, and nonfathers, with the prayer that this book… will provide guidance, wisdom, and healing for your relationships with your children and all those in your circle.”


Ladies, don’t be shy about diving in. In fact, I’d grab a copy fast, ‘fize you. Like yesterday. This one's a keeper!

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Synopsis

This book is a celebration of a father’s love. Much is written about a mother’s love, but
little is ever said about a father’s love, except around Father’s Day. This insightful and
thought-provoking book illustrates how a father’s love is forgiving, everlasting,
unconditional...and often misunderstood.

Using the Christian faith to show that fathers love as deeply as mothers, just differently, the book is designed to create “ah-ha” moments for readers who have previously not identified what the love of a father looks like. Through the use of Biblical scriptures, references, and examples, it highlights fathers in the Bible who modeled the love of a father, and challenges men to openly express the love of a father as modeled in the Word of God. It sets a mood of openness and gives the reader permission to expand his thoughts beyond what he sees to what can be possible.

A Bad Rap

Ephesians 4:29 (ESV)

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths,

but only such as is good for building up, as fits the

occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.


Exodus 20:16 (New King James Version)

You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.


James 4:11 (International Standard Version)

Do not criticize each other, brothers. Whoever makes it his

habit to criticize his brother or to judge his brother is judging

the Law and condemning the Law. But if you condemn

the Law, you are not a practicer of the Law but its judge.


Men do not listen. Men do not communicate. Men are dogs. Men are

slobs. Men are intimidated by strong women. Men cannot handle a

woman who makes more money than they do. Men do not love their

children as much as the children’s mother. On and on. While some men

have worked overtime to earn those distinctions, most men have not.


Overall, men have gotten a bad rap.

I get tired of the routine men-bashing and the subsequent piling

on that happens in our society. It is like, in order to lift women up, you

must put men down. That ought not be!


Granted, there are men who are dogs. There are men who do not listen

and are terrible at communication. There are many men (but not all) who

fit the negative stereotypes promulgated in our society. As men most of

us have fragile self-esteem and handle rejection much worse than women.

I believe all those things to be true. I also believe men are socialized into

these behaviors more than I believe it is left brain, right brain causation.


I have always believed if you tell a person something enough times,

true or false, they will eventually believe it. I used to say to my children,

if you tell someone they are a dog enough times, they will eventually

start barking. Such is true for men in our society. Men are told we

cannot multitask. Men are told we are not good communicators. Men

are told we are dogs. And men are told we do not love our children as

much as their mothers.


A mother carries the child for nine months, which forms a special

bond no father can match. This automatically provides an incalculable

deficit no man can overcome. While I agree that carrying a child creates

a distinctive bond, a father need not worry about trying to forge

his love out of the crucible of child carriage and childbirth.


Let me pause for a moment and state, for the record, that the love

of a father and the love of a mother are not in competition (more on

that in a subsequent chapter). Neither should compete with the other

to prove their love is stronger or better. At best, the loves are different

but equal. The purpose of this book is not to make a case for why a

father’s love is better or stronger than a mother’s, nor is its purpose

to subtly submit that a mother’s love is not strong or as strong. This

book, while I will reference perceptions and accepted societal beliefs

regarding a father’s and a mother’s love, is really an effort to submit a

hypothesis that a father’s love is distinctive, strong, and incomparable.

It is an effort to debunk the myths that fathers do not love their children

as much or are not capable of loving as deeply.


I have heard all the jokes, innuendo, and misrepresentations about

fathers and their comparative love. However, while writing my last

book, Divorced, But Still Dad: The Faith Principles of Fatherhood for

Divorced Men, I had an epiphany about a father’s love.


Men have gotten a bad rap long enough. It is time to release men

from the bondage of stereotype and misperception. It is time for fathers

all over the world to stand up and shake off the deluded views and

set the record straight. A father’s love is deep, unconditional, abiding,

and forgiving.


While some may look at the outward appearance, I would encourage

all to open their minds to looking beyond the outward appearance

and beyond the pernicious influences of societal definitions of what it

means to be a man to the examples that have been set and modeled in

the word of God.


Because something is different does not make it wrong. Because

there are different approaches and manners, it does not necessarily make

one right and the other wrong. When it comes to loving our children,

we must reject the construct of a right way and a wrong way to love if

that construct is built on the frail underpinnings of a faulty comparison.


For far too long, men have been told that we do not, cannot, and

are not capable of loving our children in the same manner or to the

same degree as a mother. The carriage and childbirth are the biggest

reasons offered for this men-distinctive handicap. Additionally, there

has been the fact that men spend more time at work and women spend

more time at home, due to men being the breadwinners.


<<<Sound of screeching brakes!>>>


Hold the presses! Times have changed. In today’s times women,

too, have careers and are now taking over the role of breadwinner.

Women are spending less time with children and more time in the

workforce. Women, increasingly, are absent and distracted as much as

men. While this often works to the detriment of children, it is today’s

reality. Women are no longer exclusively stay-at-home moms. Today’s

society is seeing exponential growth in stay-at-home dads. There are

now soccer dads and ballet dads, carpool dads and minivan dads.


Indeed, today’s economy has forced many families into a dual-working

parental situation. As this reality has set in, the emergence of the

internet and social media as surrogate parents has proliferated. Social

media does as much to inform our children’s behaviors, thoughts, actions,

and beliefs as parents. This is partly due to the time in which we

live and how consumed many parents (male and female) have become

with careers and their livelihood.


So, I reject the stereotypes, but more so, I believe it is time to reprogram

men and women. It is time to force open their eyes to see that

men show far more love to their children than they are given credit for.

Men have modeled love, care, and nurturing for centuries. It is time

someone pulled the cover back and exposed the fact that men love their

children deeply, completely, and uncompromisingly. We just do it in

our own way. It is time for the love of fathers to step into the spotlight,

so people stop maligning and misrepresenting it! It is time for fathers

to step forward and proclaim in words, as we have long done in deeds,

that we love our children, deeply and unconditionally!

About the author

Rev. Ken Gordon has been fighting for parents, families, and the community for over 3 decades. He is a Diamond Life Member of the NAACP and former president of an NAACP branch. He is the past Chair of Human Relations Commissions in Colorado and New Jersey. Ken lives in Alabama. view profile

Published on December 31, 2020

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Genre: Parenting & Families

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