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Overcoming the Sting of Suicide

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A book filled with spiritual wisdom to comfort Christians in times of crisis brought about by the death of a loved one.

Synopsis

Are you, or do you have a friend, family member that is shell-shocked or overwhelmed with grief and pain from the loss of a loved one to suicide? Are you personally agonizing within or for someone else feeling stagnant, longing for the WHY behind the unthinkable?

As someone who truly knows the pain of losing her husband to the act of suicide, Sandy Aletraris, the Author of “Overcoming the Sting of Suicide” shares her personal restorative journey to embrace individuals and families who’ve suffered the trauma of suicide. With Truth standing by her side through her own life experiences and studying God’s word Sandy has the ability to bring fresh perspective and tremendous encouragement.

“Overcoming the Sting of Suicide” is a hope line that will speak LIFE over your loss and will supply you with seeds of biblical truth to refresh your faith, recover your soul and restore your joy. Sandy’s compassionate and coaching heart offers reflective questions after each chapter to help transform emotions from despaired into repaired. Sandy’s message provides a safe place and guidance to live outside of regrets so you can feel the WORTH of your SOUL!!!

Overcoming the Sting of Suicide by Sandy Thornton is a Christian book that is meant to comfort and uplift the spirit of those who have experienced the grief of losing their loved ones through suicide. Written from the personal perspective of someone who has lost her husband and who had to be strong for her children during a time of great crisis, this book offers insight that people with similar situations could relate to.


Losing a loved one is hard. How much more if their death is caused by suicide? Sandy walks us through her family’s journey of healing and recovery. She identifies with and expresses her deepest grief with those who do not even know where to begin after their loved one’s death.


Each chapter of this book is filled with relevant Bible verses and ends with a section titled “Reflections by the Pool” that summarizes important points for the reader to recall and reflect upon.


This book stresses the significance of faith in overcoming the sting of suicide. Through faith, one possesses a steady anchor that would keep one from being swept away by tides of overwhelming anxiety and grief. By holding on to God’s promises as contained in the Bible, one is able to survive each day and find hope in the midst of troubling and tempting thoughts.


This book is very Christian in its core and message and may not be for those who do not share the same faith. It is worth considering, however, by those who are open to learning more about Christianity and the power of faith that comes from believing in Jesus Christ.


The author is quite focused on the spiritual aspect of suicide, and while she admits that there are instances where medicine is needed, she believes that the spiritual side of the matter should not be overlooked.


Personally, I would like to believe that we should consider all legitimate means possible to seek help when encountering depression in a loved one, which includes both spiritual and professional/medical help.


There seems to be a stigma for those who suffer from depression and other types of mental illness. But what we should remember is that this is quite similar to physical sickness also and no one should be ashamed to seek professional help in order to find the necessary cure. In relation to this, those left behind by loved ones who died through suicide need all the help they can get, spiritually, mentally and physically as they find healing and recovery.

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Synopsis

Are you, or do you have a friend, family member that is shell-shocked or overwhelmed with grief and pain from the loss of a loved one to suicide? Are you personally agonizing within or for someone else feeling stagnant, longing for the WHY behind the unthinkable?

As someone who truly knows the pain of losing her husband to the act of suicide, Sandy Aletraris, the Author of “Overcoming the Sting of Suicide” shares her personal restorative journey to embrace individuals and families who’ve suffered the trauma of suicide. With Truth standing by her side through her own life experiences and studying God’s word Sandy has the ability to bring fresh perspective and tremendous encouragement.

“Overcoming the Sting of Suicide” is a hope line that will speak LIFE over your loss and will supply you with seeds of biblical truth to refresh your faith, recover your soul and restore your joy. Sandy’s compassionate and coaching heart offers reflective questions after each chapter to help transform emotions from despaired into repaired. Sandy’s message provides a safe place and guidance to live outside of regrets so you can feel the WORTH of your SOUL!!!

Seeded for the Storm

When I got news that my husband of 28 years and father of our three children had taken his own life, my personal internal house as well, as that of my family, got blown apart.

My trials would have overwhelmed my children, and me too, had I not heard God’s word and believed in my heart in the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross and His resurrection. James 1:12 NASB says, “Blessed is a man [or woman] who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.” His love is the footing for our faith—mine, yours, and everyone’s—which is exactly where we start to rebuild our internal house after it’s been blown apart from a dear one’s life being taken by suicide.

Driving the stakes of footings for a solid, new foundation only hap- pens when we hold firmly to God’s promises, promises that even come with a guarantee. Don’t we all love a guarantee? That’s what you get: “In Him [Christ], you also trusted, after you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation; in whom also having believed, you are sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until the redemption of the purchased possession, to the praise of His glory” (Ephesians 1:13–14 NSFL).

In this book, my message for you, dear reader, carries a heart that is mentoring, coaching, and teaching. My purpose is to point you out of the negative spiral that you find yourself in when someone dear has taken their own life and to move you upward and forward to feel the value and treasure you are to God, the Creator of the universe. I’ve had many years to implement and grow in the promises of God’s word, starting when I was young, and I am delighted to share my many expe- riential and sustaining God moments and hugs through what I refer to as modern-day “parables of His Seed.”

To remove the sting of suicide and move beyond to a place of redemption is to believe, without a doubt, that death is defeated because of Christ’s resurrection: “O DEATH, WHERE IS YOUR VICTORY? O DEATH, WHERE IS YOUR STING?” The sting of death is sin, [the enemy’s lies], and the power of sin is the law; but thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ” (1 Corinthians 15:55–56 NASB). Christ’s perfect love has produced a salve for relieving wounds that may otherwise linger and hinder your healing. His spirit and character are trustworthy, and His plans and purposes for you are not for calamity. This is very comforting and sheds light to help you dis- cern what’s been tampered with by the enemy of the soul, satan, whose scheming tactics only bring you misery in his attempt to steal your peace, joy, and life. The poison venom of fault finding will be drawn away, bringing you relief as you apply the salve of God’s wisdom where needed. This is how you won’t get tossed in the waves of pain that you must endure to move through and beyond the sting of suicide. Believe it and speak it as a proclamation over all remnants of your painful loss. This is, in part, why I share my story. And I’ll be going into detail about how to remove the sting of suicide to move beyond to redemption, a place we all yearn for.

My aim with this book is for you to understand and come to a place where the eyes of your heart are able to see, hear, and experience Jesus more up close and personal. Because this will bring transformation to your life in spite of your circumstances of extreme pain, grief, bewilder- ment, and despair. This book will guide you to living outside of regrets, so you can feel the WORTH of your SOUL!


Journeying Vessels Caught in a Storm

I’ve clearly heard my assignment from above: “I am to steward the storm that God brought me through.” What resonates with me is that we are all moving vessels in this life, vessels moving on unique journeys. When a sudden storm is upon us, it is in our best interest to seek out safe har- bors. What harbor are you running to that is safe, reliable, and sustainable?Envision a harbor full of big and little vessels that are anchored down, so they won’t be damaged as they’re tossed to and fro’; so they won’t lose the precious cargo they are carrying.

I remember a phrase that captured my attention years ago: “You never know the strength of an anchor until you use it.” That anchor was, and is, God, Himself. Had I not in my younger years intentionally looked for role models that spoke about and reflected the significance of a relationship with our Creator, the author and perfecter of our faith, then the vessel of my soul would have sunk. God knows what we need before we have a clue, and He even puts an appetite in us to start search- ing for it.

Seed Principle

When I look back to my time as a child when my father was dying of cancer, God was there with me. In 2008, in the loss of my husband of 28 years to suicide, God was with me. And He still is. My safe harbor is the love of God. The living and active word, referred to as the “seed” in the Bible, was received in my heart when I put my trust in Jesus as my Savior and Lord. That seed of Jesus started germinating as I began investing in my spiritual growth, attending church, reading my Bible, attending studies, and being discipled and mentored every chance I could get.

A simple seed principle to remember, even if you’ve never gardened before, is this: what we plant is what we get. Not to mention there are many weeds that spring up around that seed that have to be dealt with. James 1:21 NSFL explains it so well: “Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your soul.”

The seed of Jesus that dwells in me has blessed me and rescued me, carrying me through thick and thin, hills and valleys, storms and tran- quil waters. By choice, I submit my mind, will, and emotions, ASK-ing for God’s wisdom, SEEK-ing His peace and will for my circumstances, and KNOCK-ing on the door of His heart through prayer, all the while expecting a download of comfort and listening for guidance and direc- tion. My spirit is refreshed, and my thoughts are submitted and renewed every single day.

What God loves to do and offers everyone is the eternal seed of LIFE that comes through Jesus who died for all the sins of the world, yours and mine—including the act of suicide.

Prior to the seed breaking the ground, His death on the cross and our surrender to trust Him for all things becomes a fellowship of suffer- ing that transforms our lives. Just like the seed germinates in the soil and begins to break ground in the soil of our soul, our heart begins to beat again and bear fruit for His glory.

The aim of my book may serve as a reminder for some readers, and for others, it may be your first-time hearing about the importance of this necessary foundation in God’s love. It truly is a matter of life and death that secures your destiny and reveals the pathway for you to traverse life, experiencing Heaven fighting for you and your loved ones. Romans 10:9 NIV states, “If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him [Jesus], from the dead, you will be saved.” This foundation will set the trajectory of your life and propel you forward in receiving redemption and restoration for your life. Jesus came to restore what was lost. You are His beloved, and His heart is on your side. Let Him hold you. Receive His embrace and peace for your soul today and for all eternity.

The faith of a seed is all it takes to activate the greatest gift we can receive—a personal relationship with our Savior, Jesus. If you find that you are needing help in processing the loss you’ve experienced and you are wanting to plant new seeds of faith to reframe your circumstances, I would love to offer you a complimentary coach- ing strategy session. You can reach me through email by clicking the link provided: Hello@sandrajoforlife.com. or become Facebook friends at https://fb.me/seeded2serve.

I hope and pray your heart is ready to step into more of my story to hear where I’ve encountered deep waters and where growth is nev- er-ending for everyone, starting with you. This is where the blessings are and where many moments with God’s presence brought restoration and transformation to my life. May they leave a lasting imprint of His love on your heart. May my words not act as information or behavioral management for you, but bring lasting transformational change to you!

In the next chapter, I share what was happening in my and Scott’s life around the time of his passing, and I discuss the hope line that I grabbed ahold of when tragedy struck me and my family, a hope line that you too can grab ahold of as well.

About the author

Sandy Aletraris was born in Nebraska. She graduated from University of Nebraska Lincoln with a BS in human development and the family, and special education. Sandy and her family lost her husband to suicide in 2008. She was was remarried in 2014. Sandy and her husband reside in Peachtree City, GA. view profile

Published on October 16, 2020

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