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In Love in War: A journey of Black Womanhood

By K. Grace

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A powerful, thoughtful, and moving collection of poetry that explores what is like to be both black and a woman in America.

Synopsis

The words "Black" and "Woman" often seem light years apart. Black women are constantly forced to choose between our Blackness and our womanhood, our heritage and our country, racism and sexism, our brothers and our sisters. We have to fight for our brothers who are victims of systemic racism, while there is silence with regards to the rampant misogyny that ravages us. As women, more often than not, we cannot count on our White "sisters" to support us in the struggles of Blackness.

"In Love in War" is one Black woman's 20-year journey of learning to heal, to love, to laugh, to cry and to open her wounds so that the world can see her insides, her struggles and most importantly, for others to know that they are not alone.

In Love in War: A Journey of Black Womanhood by K. Grace is a collection of poetry about being a woman and black in America. Grace presents a struggle in her writing. It is a struggle that sees oppression on all sides. There is the struggle in black America to free itself from its past, and, at the same time, to break the cycle of poverty, stereotypes, and the selfishness of people. She proclaims that even if an African-American does everything right, they are still at a disadvantage because of skin color, and that is one thing no one can change:


By remaining silent I succumb to my ancestor’s chains

By using textbooks as shelf ornaments and doorstops,

I push my unborn babies onto slave ships...

By slipping into the safety of convention

I become part of this nation

That was based on

My destruction and dehumanization


Another battle being waged with acceptance is with women. Openly welcomed into women's rights demonstrations, the author discovers that most of the welcoming company would not join her in a Black Lives Matter demonstration. Men also present a challenge in other ways. The cry for power often lacks responsibility. There is a perpetuation of victim status instead of becoming masters of one's destiny.


I’m tired of revolutioniggaz

these brothas raising their fists to fight

using those same fists to beat their wives


There is a battle of color too; it is something Grace wishes never existed. Although she can ignore and forget what the world teaches, many cannot. Her use of Whyte throughout the poem is unusual in that is separate from "White Boys" and other general references to "white" people. Whyte is the society in which we live. It is the indoctrination of "whiteness" and then demanding that people act, dress, and perform in certain ways. Not only does the spelling difference separate the individuals from the system, but it can also relate to the Y chromosome. It is the white male, by a vast majority, that makes our laws, sends tax dollars to particular districts, and determines reproductive rights.


Feeding the lie by letting it pull our puppet strings

Acting like chocolate-coated Europeans

Tellin people how to live

When our shit isn’t together


In Love In War is a powerful collection of poetry with a strong message that will apply to all readers. Her root message is love, and that love is at all levels from society down to individual needs. Grace is clear and eloquent in her writing and even as a middle-aged, white, male I can see and agree with her arguments. There is a cry for all sides to recognize that there is a problem that must be resolved.


Until we accept that the world is the way it is because of our daily decisions

Only then you can tell me you truly love your children — your future

Only then, can I believe that you are serious about change.


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Joseph Spuckler has a Masters Degree in International Relations and a deep appreciation for poetry and Modernist writers. He is a Marine Corps veteran and works as a mechanic devoting his off hours for motorcycling and reviewing poetry. Originally from Cleveland, he currently resides in Dallas.

Synopsis

The words "Black" and "Woman" often seem light years apart. Black women are constantly forced to choose between our Blackness and our womanhood, our heritage and our country, racism and sexism, our brothers and our sisters. We have to fight for our brothers who are victims of systemic racism, while there is silence with regards to the rampant misogyny that ravages us. As women, more often than not, we cannot count on our White "sisters" to support us in the struggles of Blackness.

"In Love in War" is one Black woman's 20-year journey of learning to heal, to love, to laugh, to cry and to open her wounds so that the world can see her insides, her struggles and most importantly, for others to know that they are not alone.

Until

Until White Feminists are front and center at Black Lives Matters Rallies


Until you see the chicken on your plate as the dog in your yard or the child in your arms


Until your favorite pair of jeans are the ones that aren’t made by children in sweatshops


Until your dollars and diamonds become paper and stones


Until Black Children dying at home become as important as white children dying abroad


Until Je Suis France becomes Je Suis Chicago and Waxaan ahay Somalia 


Until we view our daily decisions as creating world history


Until history becomes her story and herstory becomes ourstory


Until you see the faces of little African children getting two cents a day in the parts of your brand new iPhone


Until eliminating the guns that kill babies is as important to you as unborn babies


Until stealing $50 is treated with the same minimum security prison as stealing $50 million


Until you see the third world in the first world 


Until the animals your beauty products are tested on become as important as your flat screen TV


Until your laws being passed and votes are as important as your tv shows


Until Christians have the same respect for Muslims as they do for rapist founding father slaver owners


Until you put your hand over heart and pledge allegiance to the 1 million indigenous people whose land you are standing on


Until celebrating Thanksgiving is viewed with the same disgust as celebrating “Jewish Gas Chamber Day”

And Christopher Columbus is taught as the world’s most glorified rapist and pillager


Until pictures of starving people on my Facebook page garner as many likes as pictures of my bikini pictures

 

Until illegal elections inspire revolutions


Until the make-up in your bag is as important as the animals in the lab that they were experimented on


Until 500 gun deaths in Chicago cause rioting in the streets of Seattle and Beverly Hills 


Until military spending causes people to tear down government buildings and not return to life as usual 


Until White people acknowledge their privilege


Until they denounce the term White


Until people trust a plant that’s been used to heal for 1000 years over a pill with unknown ingredients that passed the FDA by a hair


Until high school classrooms acknowledge that Europeans have been the world’s largest terrorist group


Until Black people fight for gay marriage with the same fervor that they fought for Civil Rights


Until churches use collection plates for meals for children instead of new Cadillacs 


Until the meat and dairy industries are considered just as cruel as dog fighting


Until we accept that the world is the way it is because of our daily decisions 



Only then you can tell me you truly love your children — your future 

Only then, can I believe that you are serious about change.

About the author

K. Grace spent half of her formative years with her family in the majority Black, poverty stricken Oakland Area and the other half in the majority White, middle-class suburb Burbank, CA. K.Grace received a Bachelor’s degree in African American studies from a top university in New York. view profile

Published on March 03, 2018

8000 words

Contains explicit content ⚠️

Genre: Poetry

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