Imagine a beautiful woman showed up at your door. Would you be ready for her? Would she see a healthy, confident, interesting man able to engage her on multiple levels? Or would she see a Nervous Ned flashing warning signs to steer clear and look elsewhere for fun and romance?
In this frank, straight to the point instructional guide to romance, sex, and seduction, author Mark Covington shares the lessons he’s learned on his own journey from timid virgin to bold romancer.
Whether you’re discovering sex and seduction for the first time or simply wish to express your authentic self without fear, Beyond Blushes is a first step on the journey towards romantic satisfaction. This book is perfect for introverts and extroverts alike and most importantly those who fear romantic opportunities or feel like social misfits.
-Learn to assess then change the physical messages you broadcast to women.
-Rewrite your inner stories to overcome shyness and fear of rejection.
-Discover how to date (online and off), seduce, and stimulate women while becoming the amazing lover you were meant to be.
Isn’t it time to become a great lover in and out of the bedroom?
A confession isn’t something I would generally open with, but it’s relevant to this book’s origin.
Arriving at my brother’s home for my nephew’s high-school graduation, my nephew forfeited his bedroom to me for the living-room couch. After settling in, I noticed his yearbook. Absent of any ill-intent, I began thumbing its pages. Shots of class assemblies, crazy teacher poses, drama performances, cheering students waving fingers claiming number one, and recurring photos of the girl most admired by the yearbook team triggered my own high-school memories—both fond and fierce. Shy and feeling like a social outcast, my journey through adolescence wasn’t a happy one, but I felt warmed by the vitality and energy beaming from the pages.
Then I caught a scribbled note in a girl’s handwriting. If I had any doubts about crossing boundaries, they congealed into a hard line at that moment. I hesitated, but like a fascinated researcher, I mulled over the private entries written by my nephew’s closest friends. I know it was wrong to pry into his personal life but was overcome with a writer’s curiosity. The result of my social sin had me shaking my head in disbelief—reading between the lines of crass innuendo, I realized my nephew and his friends were clueless about sex.
I suppose the sexual learning curve is quite natural—you don’t know what you don’t know until you find out for yourself. For the veteran, accustomed to their own version of what great sex is, it’s easy to forget that you were once exploring the seas of passion with only an awkward parental talk, board-approved textbook lessons, and schoolyard gossip as a compass.
After the graduation ceremony, over sixty of us gathered in celebration. As the party faded toward midnight, most of the adults wandered inside, while my nephew and his buddies remained huddled around a vigorous bonfire. My desire to speak privately to these boys had been cooking all day so I took the opportunity. Picking a strategic seat, I leaned toward the flames sipping a beer and introduced myself as Michael’s uncle. I listened quietly, letting them warm to my presence. I wanted to deliver my thoughts organically.
As is typical of young men, it wasn’t long before the conversation turned to women. I stared at the fire, pretending I was absorbed by the flames. It suddenly felt right, and looking at no one young man in particular, I said, “If you are receptive, I can offer some thoughts about sex and romance. Some things you may not know. Some may be of great advantage to you.”
Maybe it was my tone, or the fire, or a combination of both, but they turned to me in silent expectation. So I shared my experiences—tentatively at first to be sure the they were sincere—then in more detail as questions were asked between pauses.
Our conversation expired along with the last glowing embers of an exhausted fire, then five virgin boys walked away a bit taller, a bit wiser, empowered with new insight on sex and seduction.
Reading those yearbook comments led to tribal pass-down, which morphed into the book now in your hands. I have expanded its scope to share how to go beyond blushes to be a better lover both in and out of the bedroom because, well, because you don’t know what you don’t know, and sometimes you just need a friendly bloke to help you out.
Of course, no guide can offer a one-size-fits-all approach. Sex, love, and passion will, and always does, happen without any help. However, you may benefit from this book if you did not grow up in a healthy, sex-positive environment.
This book is for you if:
• you are shy, lacking confidence and self-esteem.
• inherited any strict, limiting beliefs around sex.
• you fear romantic opportunities.
• you feel like you’re a bit of a social misfit.
• you were bullied or marginalized in your formative years.
As for my own journey from timid virgin to bold romancer… Well, I spent many years thinking I was an ugly duckling, painfully suppressing hurtful comments and tip-toeing around social conventions until finally losing my virginity at twenty-seven—a full decade past my peers. Yet, through various people, events, and circumstances, one day unexpectedly saw my reflection in a store window and realized that I was an elegant swan. If you want to learn more about me before diving deeper, you can read my story at the back of the book.
Everything I learned about fantastic sex, positive seduction, self-assessment, inner stories, and online dating is within this guide. Don’t worry, I won’t be sharing my personal encounters, only the distillation of my experiences and sexual knowledge in the shape of practical steps to help you better enjoy your romantic and sexual journey.
So, gather around the fire. Lean in. Don’t miss a word. Find out the processes that can transform you into a brave beau, whatever your sexual or romantic experiences to date. The knowing will elevate your perspective to help you see more clearly how to draw romance into your life.
Mark Covington